Author: Keneilwe Ranakabae

I have often wondered how when you are a child you live so free, in boldness and with so much confidence and faith that can move mountains.. And suddenly when you grow a little older, freedom and enjoying life become a thing of the past.

But why? Why do we often become deteriorated children just existing to pay bills? What happens to that fire which we had?

My assumption is that somewhere in your journey, someone whispers ‘can’t’, ‘impossible’ and you end up taking that as your gospel truth. I’m here to tell you, Girl Get Up and claim your confidence back, get up and resuscitate that passion for life in you, it’s there and you know it. God created you to live an abundant fruitful life, playing small and doubting yourself will only imprison you.

I write this and I’m also preaching to myself because a very good mentor of mine noticed that I suddenly had a low self esteem than when he met me and that triggered me to reflect on how did I get there. The answer is on what I have been consuming and allowing to feed my heart and spirit. It was not serving me at all. And that’s the thing hey, you really have to be careful of what you listen to, the conversations you have, people you follow on social media because all of that affects your soul, spirit and mind.

My point, live a little. Appreciate the small things. The birds singing, run around and play on grass, let go of all burdens you are carrying and give them to God and live! Live like a child, have faith like a child. Be confident like a child and silence all that says you are not good enough like so and so. You are confident and worthy in your own right. No one can be like you

Love and light. Kay🌻

The Coronavirus pandemic has penetrated itself across the world and no one knows what will happen tomorrow.Theres so much anxiety, where will I get my next loaf of bread? Will I still have that job once this settles down? A lot of questions run through my mind and I’m sure the it’s the same case with you. Even in the midst of chaos,ever notice how things workout in the end? How you first feel like you are in a storm and then all of a sudden things work out. That is because Psalm 23 talks about goodness and mercy that will always follow you throughout your life. Miracles happen when things are messy, simple illustration of cooking, well I use this example because I have been having fun in the kitchen lately.. When you are cooking something good, something insanely delicious that you are trying out different recipes, it’s messy.. things are all over the place and when one observes they see a mess without knowing that you are up to something! Something real goooood. I believe God is up to something, something good, something miraculous, something that will blow our minds and bring us back to our knees to worship Him and give Him all the Glory.

Hope is our answer, Hope will help us endure.. Hope enables us to see beyond what’s currently happening. Hope will help us find peace in the storm. Hope is in all of us, tap into it.

When this passes, we will look back and see how far we’ve come because we had hope. Through it all never lose your hope.

Love and Light Kay 🌻

Lately I have been driving for long distances and I have sort of gotten into a bad habit of always wanting to overtake, having the urge to drive faster based on the speed of the driver who is either behind me or just next to me in the other lane. But you see this is what causes accidents! Imagine if I would stick to my own pace of driving and keeping to my lane because it’s not always necessary to overtake, I would not be susceptible to accidents.

Funny how this can be put into context, our lives. We tend to respond to our own lives and pace based on the progress that some people in our circles or outside make. Will it be possible that for a moment, we focus on our lives.

Channel all the energy within our ourselves and look to ourselves for improvement, competition etc.

dissatisfaction will always be a possibility when we are not in our lanes.

I also strongly believe that insecurities are what causes us to race against people’s timelines and want to have that because she/he has it. Somehow when one is content with who they are and what they are capable of and they are fixing their eyes on their prize, their journey.. The universe responds. God through His spirit guides us till the end and you can actually see His hand at work because distraction is gone..

Be still in the process that you are in, go through it!! Be active in your story as it unfolds and allow yourself to marvel at the goodness of God.

It’s your own lane..

Your own race..

Your own unique beautiful journey..

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What do you do when all of a sudden everything that you thought would last a life time collapses and you are left alone? No more coffee dates, spa dates and all night calls? You are alone…The reality of life is some relationships aren’t meant to be forever but for a season and to serve a particular purpose. I have had my own share of friendships not working out and because i value friendships and i remain loyal, i often found myself fighting and trying so hard that i end up being toxic, imagine doing something from the purest of hearts and it ends up being sour?! Yep i have been there. Everyone wishes to have that Jonathan and David friendship, were the love is so pure and strong that you would go to the ends of the earth for your friend, but sometimes it doesn’t happen and that’s were one needs to accept and gracefully let go and move on.

There are many reasons we can talk about as to why friendships don’t work but really i wont go into it because this will feel like climbing Kilimanjaro,lol. But the most important one i want to mention is destiny. Destiny is a journey, a journey that is pre-planned by God and pre-destined. And each journey consists of a series of events which constitutes a season. With every event there’s resources for it to be successful right? There’s decor, audience and the program director. The same applies for one’s destiny. think of it as an event. You have people forming part of an audience and some will participate for just that one event and some will be there for every event hosted. Still with me? what i am saying is some people will be there for just that portion of an event in your journey and some will be there at 5 of your events and some will be there until the end of your journey. Your portion should be to value all of those people and you make sure that your time with them counts. When its time for their assignment in your life to end, wish them well and give space. Holding on so much to them will only cause bitterness and resentment, that all the memories and moments you had, are not going to be looked at from a gratitude perspective, but from a place of why did we even become friends.

Rejection is not a nice pill to swallow, its hard and it often leaves you blaming yourself, questioning yourself about your worth. Let me tell you this, you are worthy of everything good, you are worthy of loyal and genuine friendships and if that one or two friendships you thought were going to be your forever did not happen, that’s okay there’s more for you and the people involved.

As you would know, transparency in this blog is a thing right.. I wont lie its not easy to let go especially when you see them having fun with another person and you start feeling jealous or envious of their interactions with other people but the beauty of forgiving yourself my friend, forgiving thyself that it did not work out, forgiving God that He allowed it to happen is a liberating feeling that we ought to seek. God will not take away and not make provision for your life. If you have been rejected before, know this; God has not rejected you and He is making provision for ‘your people’ to come flood your life. If your relationships haven’t worked out, forgive, forgive and forgive, no grudges, you will block your blessings with that heart trust me.

When all is said and done, when they come and go, when you are shaken and challenged. One thing remains: God! Enjoy His blessings and be in a place were when its taken away from you, you can still praise and thank Him for that blessing and look forward to Him working in your life. For now, just love and love fiercely ❤️

Peace and love,

Kay 🌻

Time, like you would know is a crucial and important component of our lives. In life we don’t get back time but it’s there to be used and very wisely to accomplish what we have set ourselves to achieve. A common phrase that I often hear is time no waits for no man. Which really is true because no matter how much effort a person puts in, you can’t add time or be rewarded with time but you can only spend it.

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens according to Ecclesiastes 3vs1..

So in essence if you look at it, nature itself exercises time management, the sun rises and sets at a specific time.

The precision of what nature does is amazing I would say. As I blog this, I have such a huge burden in my life right now because I recently lost my grandmother, the glue which kept everything and everyone intact and all of sudden she is no more. It was probably her time right!? I can’t answer that and I’m sure no one can. I could argue and say it was not her time but then who gets to decide if a person lives or dies? I believe the creator does and as human beings we can only go as far as putting measures in place to stay alive but when it’s time, it is time and it’s done, nobody can reverse it.

Now timing is a different ball game, you then decide to check on yourself as far as how far you are with what you want, timing is all about planning where you want to go and when and with who if you like.

It’s about using time -as a divine resource effectively to be a good steward of what you are currently entrusted with and desire to get.

Most of us we merely live our lives concerning ourselves with how much time we don’t have, how I’m soon going to reach 30 and I have run out of time to make babies, have a husband, have a house etc etc and all these things we worry ourselves about more especially when we look outside of ourselves and observe what other people have. How’s about for a moment we take ownership of timing in our lives, we recognize when to learn, to be bold, to plant, to sow, to reap, to listen, to voice out issues, to marry the list is endless…

When we focus on time and the things of time, we will never find peace in life. We will not live out our purpose and full potential. When I lost my parents years back, had i been stuck on time I wouldn’t have been where I am today. In as much as then I was mourning and confused, It was also crucial of me to plan my where, when and why and that’s essentially timing. We have been taught to focus so much on time but why? Why focus on something you can’t change or alter really? I think as people we should focus more on timing than time, there’s a sense of sanity that comes with it and no room for regrets

With Love,

Kay🌻

I thought it would be interesting to talk about the veil. The veil is something that we love so much as women right?! When we walk down that aisle to meet with our partners in love and purpose with our veils on 👰🏽 it’s such a surreal moment, brides will tell you. But I want to take a different twist on this, give me a moment, Let me explain

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My Oxford dictionary defines Veil as a piece of material to protect or hide the face. Some of the synonyms are mask,shield,cover amongst others. So the Veil for me has a different perspective than what it just signifies on the wedding day. When I thought and prayed about the name for the blog, Behind the Veil just popped up in my heart and I ddnt understand it at first but as you would know, seeking to understand is vital otherwise you will walk blindly.

I tell you I have put on a Veil, I put on a mask because it was the easiest thing to do, no one gets to me, my walls are built up so high no one will get to me and actually see what is behind that veil, what is being hidden.. But you see the issue with masking is that it gets to you, you get to a place where you are stagnant, that is a frustrating place to be in. But why do we mask?! Because I feel like it’s a thing to mask or put on a facade if I may put it that way. You probably have your reasons and listen, they matter….. Mine was more of the fear of losing friends or acquaintances, what if I reveal this side of myself, maybe I’m too loud, tone it down Keneilwe, or maybe try go to certain places or change your wardrobe, you might fit in, In my mind, I would literally have a conversation about these things.

Until I decided I’m not going to put on a mask anymore, I will not be in hiding about who I am, what I stand for, what I like, what I am interested in, my standards. The list is endless. At the end of the day “Your people”, People meant to be in your life for a purpose will love and accept you , just as you are and stay. Nothing is liberating than being YOU.

Behind my Veil is a gift, a woman with so much passion and fire for life.

What is behind your Veil??…….………………

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I have for the longest time wanted to blog and essentially for one reason – that is to share my journey, my story, my everyday small victories,big hiccups,discoveries and and and.

See, I believe that some of us have learnt, matured and healed from hearing people’s genuine journeys. I hope that my blog can bring about some lessons or insights that you can use, to some of you I hope it will bring healing and closure to some extend.

I’m not an expert, I’m not perfect but I am just a regular girl who just wants to spread love ❤️ and radiate light💫 and when you read my blog friend, I want you to have the latter in your mind.

Till the next blog 📔

With Love

Kay🌻

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton